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Moira’s Vanishing Act Ross Log: Ares


October 13th, 2008

The evil and clever Moira continued to abuse poor Ross by disappearing on him at some point. One day on October 13th, 2008 Ross suddenly discovered that his cherished
Moira has been around all along as “Nicole” on Ares. Ross is shocked and distraught at this discovery.  Not only has she been hiding from him, but he finds out she’s been messing with other guys on Ares.

It seems she was conditioning him to be a very faithful e-lover! Ross goes around from room to room telling everyone that he’s not doing too well due to this. Someone I knew copied these exchanges in the rooms. I included some of my conversations with this contact… 

(I bolded some of Ross’s statements to emphasize, added some comments in italics.)
(Notes in light blue added on 3/14/2010)

(6:59 AM) TekWiz: lol what was
that about moira and ross?
(7:00 AM) A squirrel in th:Ross is
quite sad and angry that Moira left him and changed her name:

16:47:19 Ross> hi lydia hun
16:47:35 ĿγđıΛ: hi ross hows u?
16:47:46 Ross> im pretty sad to be honest
16:47:54 Ross> i just found out that nicole is
16:48:07 Ross> i found her old ip and its the same

16:48:14 Ross> so i just emailed her
16:48:33 Ross> telling her i know its her and i know whats shes
been upto with other guys
16:48:37 ĿγđıΛ: really
16:49:02 ĿγđıΛ: i thought so wen she sed lyly its only moira calls me
16:49:09 Ross> [¤•мφiгa•¤:
( ] 16:49:10 Ross> [•ηicσℓe•: (

16:49:13 Ross> yup
16:49:34 Ross> she is so deceitful
16:49:38 ĿγđıΛ: so whys shr doing it
16:49:42 ĿγđıΛ: she
16:49:57 Ross> maybe shes evil
(That’s why me and Ross talked
so much, we discussed whether Moira had psychological
problems or maybe she was just evil. I told him it’s almost impossible
to tell online if
someone doesn’t want you to know–they could be acting… He leaned
towards saying
she is just immature and childish and maybe has psychological
problems… I felt that
she seemed to know what she was doing and was evil. Here he thinks she
might be evil.
In fact he calls her “deceitful” which would mean she knows what she is
Another thing I
would like to point out here is that I always thought Moira was much
closer and more open with Ross than me, as he was supposedly her
“boyfriend” while I was a “friend”. So with this in mind I was often
quite surprised that he didn’t seem to be able to understand her
behavior any better than I did. I was extremely shocked when I heard
she just dissappeared on him like this because as much as I thought she
enjoyed making men suffer I didn’t think she would do something like
this to Ross who was always so loyal and devoted to her except for a
couple of “digressions” where he wanted to take revenge on her for
“cheating” on him and messed around with other women on Ares. With this
in mind, as I originally said, it’s quite impossible to “diagnose”
someone who doesn’t want to be “diagnosed”. My best estimate is whoever
Moira is in real life, she or even he, is a highly disturbed individual
with a variety of personality problems. She/he is definately not a
normal functioning person and very well might already be under
professional psychological care.

16:50:23 ĿγđıΛ: must b cos she pm me ages ago she didnt say a thing
16:50:32 Ross> shes obviously got a name for herself in the last
2 weeks
16:50:43 ỊимaтзĢỊz has parted
16:50:58 Ross> like mistress said yesterday ‘ the
room bike
“The room bike” means everybody “rides” her!)

16:51:05 ĿγđıΛ: she has cos on gnd ppl are slagging her
16:51:33 Ross> she told me she doesnt cyber with
16:51:51 Ross> some guy yesterday said he boned her a couple of
times lol

16:52:15 ĿγđıΛ: well mistress knows everybody so she must be right#(Hahahaha:
“boned her a couple of times”. Even Ross finds this funny.)
(7:12 AM) A squirrel in th:18:07:59 Çสт ≈ǿ ̯͡ ǿั≈ мэσώ hey ma lil bro
18:07:59 Çสт ≈ǿ ̯͡ ǿั≈ мэσώ lol
18:08:39 Çสт ≈ǿ ̯͡ ǿั≈ мэσώ how r u and hows ur work?
18:08:52 Ross » im not working at the moment hun
18:08:58 Ross » and im not doing too good today
18:09:06 Ross » i found moira last night in a room

18:09:06 Çสт ≈ǿ ̯͡ ǿั≈ мэσώ ohh
18:09:23 Çสт ≈ǿ ̯͡ ǿั≈ мэσώ u sure she was her?
18:09:24 Ross » changed her name to •ηicσℓe•
18:09:33 Ross » and shes been messing about with guys it seems

18:09:34 Ross » yup
18:09:36 Ross » 1 secNote: Ross
worked from a young age as a mail truck driver but around 2006 he hurt
his lower back and has been unable to work. He went back to work for a
short while in 2007. However currently he is permanently laid off and
is on disablity. This is why he is on Ares 24/7.

18:09:47 Ross » [•ηicσℓe•: (
18:09:59 Ross »

18:10:07 Çสт ≈ǿ ̯͡ ǿั≈ мэσώ wat did she say to u ?
18:10:08 Ross » [¤•мφiгa•¤: ( ] 18:10:17 Ross » i pm’d her but she didnt speak to me
18:10:22 Ross » she left the rooms

18:10:25 Çสт ≈ǿ ̯͡ ǿั≈ мэσώ omg!
18:10:37 Ross » #whowas
18:10:42 Ross » #whowas 190.2.97.
18:10:59 Ross » #whowas 200.3.

18:11:00 Çสт ≈ǿ ̯͡ ǿั≈ мэσώ how come she goes to the rooms and leave u
like that without sayin anythin!
18:11:06 Ross » idk hunRoss is very
efficient in looking in many rooms all the time and copying down IP
God bless him.
Note that he says he PM’d (Private Message) her but she didn’t talk.
This is Moira’s most powerful weapon.
She found that what hurts people most is if she ignores them. When she
ignores and doesn’t
reply you don’t know what she’s thinking. Ross is scared she won’t ever
talk to him again.
Of course Moira plans to just “torture” him for a while before
is another clip:
(8:47 AM) A squirrel in
19:21:04 Ross » hi demon mate
19:33:00 [мββ]-Đęмǿň> whats up?
19:35:17 Ross » nm mate
19:35:31 Ross » hows you?
19:39:11 [мββ]-Đęмǿň> im good thanx
19:39:15 [мββ]-Đęмǿň> hows u?
19:39:18 Ross »
19:39:33 Ross » not too good mate
19:39:58 Ross » found out my so called ‘gf ‘ is a lying cheating bitch
19:40:01 Ross » mili or moira
19:40:10 Ross » or nicole as shes calling herself now
19:41:24 Ross » •ηicσℓe•
Note that he calls
her “my so called ‘gf'” This is because she only sometimes says she is
his “gf”. Then at other times she claims she is “free” and he is not
her “bf”. This is just another one of her “torture” methods. She NEVER
gives Ross the pleasure of feeling secure with her.
The common element in all these clips is that
Moira causes Ross a lot of heartache. He is
miserable and goes to talk to different people in various rooms telling
them all he is not
doing too well.
Also I would like to mention that Ross has
stated that Moira caused him so much pain that when he used to drive
home at night he was scared to return as he didn’t “know what she would
do next”. He has said that he experienced so much pain that eventually
he just became “numb” to it. I also understand he drinks a lot and uses
drugs like “mushrooms”. Maybe that’s why he’s so abusive, strange, and
Remember that we are talking about “Moira”, an
ONLINE personality which Ross has never
seen in real life and not even on a webcam. He only saw a few tiny
and  unclear pictures which
don’t even match and it’s hard to tell what this character Moira looks
like. She is just someone
who types to him on the net. Strange you say? No, her great power comes
from her mystery.
In Ross’s mind she is a goddess. The mind is a curious thing.
following is some of my conversation about this with my contact:
AM) TekWiz: but i told her from the beginning she is only 18 so she
needs to think about herself and going to college
I was Moira’s friend and thought
that an 18 year old girl should not be hanging out in chatrooms but
to college. When I met her she lied saying everywhere she was studying
“architecture”. Later she stopped
saying that. She then said she was working daily in a Vet’s office
taking care of animals. She used to come online early in the morning
from another IP so this may have been true.
But later on when
Ross insisted on celebrating her 19th birthday, she kept saying
18/F/Argentina by accident in the rooms, and then she said that she had
only turned 17. At that time I wasn’t
talking with her anymore, BTW. This means she was 16 when I and Ross
met her (according to her). She was on Ares all day except for about 4
hours every morning when she said she worked at the Vet’s office.
But at 16 you’d think she’d be going to school and that would be more
than 4 hours. So that raises into
question whether Moira is really a young girl at all. She might be much
older or maybe not even a girl but a guy. Her voice really didn’t sound
as that of a young teenage girl. I have a few samples and will post
them soon.(7:14 AM) A squirrel in th: the clue is how easy it is for the girl to
say these things
(7:14 AM) A squirrel in th: if its easy
(7:14 AM) A squirrel in th: then she doesnt mean it , end of story
(7:14 AM) A squirrel in th: men shouldnt be this naive esp on res
(7:14 AM) A squirrel in th: *ares
(7:14 AM) A squirrel in th: i know moira, fm the way she talks its as
if she doesnt take things seriouslyNotice
my contact thinks Moira doesn’t talk as if she takes things seriously.
One thing is for sure, she definately doesn’t take people she meets
online seriously. This is not uncommon in the Ares chat community. I’ve
seen many chatters state that they don’t take any of it seriously as
“it’s all words on the screen.” In other words they think the people
they are talking with are not genuine–that they are acting out fake
personalities, and should not be taken seriously. This in turn means
they can abuse them, play with their feeling, and generally treat them
with no respect as they are not true human beings. No wonder there have
been several online-abuse related suicides reported in the media. In
fact I know of at least two adult females (in their 30’s and 40’s) who
were close to suicide. One had attempted it and the other was thinking
of it. Both suffered “broken hearts” due to men who “played with their
Ross had actually said he had tried to commit suicide at age 14. It is
not impossible to entertain the possiblity that Moira might actually
drive him to commit suicide at some point.  The risk seems to
be there.

(7:15 AM) TekWiz: Well I
didn’t really think she meant it
(7:15 AM) TekWiz: I was being just really nice to her
(7:15 AM) TekWiz: What I understood is that it was just fantasy
(7:15 AM) TekWiz: i was kind of surprised when in private she asked
about “marry in real”
(7:16 AM) TekWiz: I didn’t know how to take that
(7:16 AM) TekWiz: I didn’t take it seriously
(7:16 AM) TekWiz: i thought it was part of the fantasy game
(7:16 AM) TekWiz: In fact moira said more than once that it’s really
all fun fantasy
(7:16 AM) TekWiz: But ross decided it must be more than that
(7:17 AM) TekWiz: and moira also told him a few times it can’t ever be
“Real”(7:17 AM) TekWiz: but she dropped enough “hints” to make him wonder
(7:17 AM) TekWiz: he tought he just had to get “through to her”
(7:17 AM) TekWiz: to convince her he is serious about herThat’s
Ross’s problem. He thinks he is smarter than everybody and he’s
stubborn. He has a “brick head”.
He convinced himself that
“nobody would spend so much
time in rooms unless they were looking to fall
in love with someone for real and that Moira must be looking”. This is of course a big mistake on his
part. Moira has stated several times she is only on Ares to “escape
from her hard life.” She called it “Fantasy Island”.
To be fair he is 30 years old and he is not
of the “Internet generation” so he approaches the online community with
an old mindset. He just can’t
get his head around the idea that some people go online to enjoy an
anonymous, “virtual” life where
they can act in a way they would never act in real life. It didn’t
matter what Moira kept telling him. On the
other hand, in order for Moira to get the best experience of an online
fantasy she also wanted her “victims”
to think she is serious about real life. But she knew that this is
really immoral, so that bothered her somewhat from what she told me.
The result was that her message was unclear, and Ross being so eager
for her to be real preferred to believe she was real. Ross only hears
what he wants to hear.(7:18 AM) TekWiz: I got rid of her months ago
(7:18 AM) TekWiz: But what really bothers me is that ross hates me so
much when i was trying to hard to help him and be his friend
(7:19 AM) TekWiz: she really did a job on him
(7:19 AM) TekWiz: she made him pretty bitter and hateful
(7:19 AM) TekWiz: she should sit in jail for what she did to him
Above I express my anger at Moira for causing
Ross all this pain. I am very dissapointed that he seems to hate me due
to her.

(7:19 AM) A squirrel in th: oh but u see, first u think ooh she’s just
being nice but it sticks
(7:20 AM) A squirrel in th: this kinda thing floats on ure
(7:20 AM) A squirrel in th: see she’s just looking for
(7:20 AM) A squirrel in th: how easy guys are
(7:20 AM) A squirrel in th: what do u mean
(7:20 AM) A squirrel in th: what kinda hints
(7:20 AM) A squirrel in th: well maybe he sees u as competition
(7:20 AM) A squirrel in th: or
(7:20 AM) A squirrel in th: maybe he thinks if it wasnt for u
(7:21 AM) A squirrel in th: he’d be free of this mess
(7:21 AM) A squirrel in th: yeah he seems to be in bad shape
My contact seems to
have “street sense” and explains how Ross is easy prey for Moira. She
it’s easy for Moira to get into Ross’s mind, and he can’t clear his
mind of her.


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My First Social Experience with Ares

The Moira (Mili) & RosStory
(Ross used to use a cyan name and Moira was pink, so Ross decided to mix his name with pink like this, to show they were a couple)

Since May 2007

Moira is a chatroom character. Nobody knows who she really is or how old she is, or even if she is really a female. She had lied about her age among other things, she is careful never to show a picture of her face, and never uses a webcam. She/he could be anybody who has decided to create an “online personality” However her/his effect on unassuming, genuine people can be significant. I chose her because she is a classic example.

She is a typical sample of others who have created a “virtual personality” for themselves. A common statement for these characters is that people they chat with online are not “real friends” but “virtual friends” or “e-friends” which somehow makes them unreal and thus they are fair game to be treated as less than equal human beings…

This case illustrates how an individual such as Moira can deeply affect the lives of well-meaning individuals, causing them pain and anguish, and causing them spend most of their time typing to people in chatrooms…

Ross in great pain on October 13, 2008

Another interesting aspect to this story is that I was involved in it too and it shows that you should always be cautious when entering unknown territory.

A couple of short conversations I caught!
(Camilla the chicken was one of the nicknames Moira used)

August 6th, 2009

P…: so u & ross are back together once again

Moira: we come and go all the time

August 19th, 2009

Unnamed 1: ross is messed up from all those drugs

Unnamed 1: as for moira id like to strangle that witch

Unnamed 2: yeah he is

Unnamed 2: and he fights with jerry all the time i hate him so much

Unnamed 3: camilla the chicken ??

Unnamed 2: that moira is messed him up

Unnamed 2: moira the fool

Unnamed 1:  what he sees in her ill never no

The first person I met on ares was a girl called Moira. She was extremely cheerful and friendly. She invited me to come back to a chatroom, saying “come back anytime, we are always here”. I returned, and fell into something I never would have expected. My experience was so strange and unusual that I thought it should not remain private. What makes the story significant is that I made a mistake of introducing someone “Ross” to Moira and she has managed to take over his life completely. He lives with her online (and often without her) for 3 years now… To Moira’s credit she often states that for her it’s just fantasy… “Fantasy Island” as she referred to it… However she also hints to her virtual e-boyfriends that she truely loves them and might even meet them one day. She knows it’s wrong to give people false hopes and feels guilty about it, but the thrill of living an online fantasy life and feel that it’s real is too great. The men she deals with won’t respond too well if they were sure it was all just fantasy…

What was even more astounding is that this wasn’t an isolated case… After some time I found out that this type of game is common between men and women online. It seems to be more common among women but men do this too. However usually it doesn’t last this long as in this case…

This type of online distance relationship can cause a lot of confusion, jealousy, anguish and hatred. When people are together in real life, they are physically there. They can sense expression, body language, know where each one is at any time… But online none of this exists. The other person is mostly text that comes to you when they feel like writing… It’s almost like make believe… For example, ross thought all was going well between him and moira. They even talked voice on skype daily. One day she said she will be back tommorrow but she dissapeared for days. Then he found she changed her nickname to Nicole and was going into various chatrooms making new friends. Here is some text where he cries about it in one of the rooms she started to hang out in…Ross expresses a lot of anguish in a room after Moira dissappears on him and shows up as “Nicole” in various rooms10/13/2008. Also if the other person doesn’t seem to make much sense or they are unresponsive to your concerns, it can be quite horrifying, painful and confusing. In fact at some points Ross was so astounded with the way Moira talked to him that he wanted me to review his conversations with her. Here are actual texts he sent me to analyze. I did my best to comment in blue but all I managed to do was basically summarize the response as it’s quite impossible to know why a person would respond in this way: Moira appears very cruel and uncaring towards Ross: 01/11/2008and here’s a second conversation where she doesn’t seem to make much sense 01/13/2008. As can be seen, Ross is being very genuine and shows a lot of emotion and pain, but Moira doesn’t seem to care at all. She appears to be psychopathic. Ross keeps talking hoping to get through to her but it hardly helps. For an 18 year old as she claimed to be she sounds quite cruel. But what if she’s a lot younger, very immature, clinically depressed or has some other psychological problem?


A Study of Online Communities

MISSION STATEMENT: To provide insight into the phenomenon of online communities such as Ares, such as understanding how anonymity of individuals makes a well-functioning community difficult to achieve and how it differs from real-world societies/relationships.

One day I stumbled upon a virtual community called Ares. I never visited a “chatroom” before, except some hacker IRC rooms many years ago. One day I read some blog where something called Ares was mentioned. I thought I would try it. I found it carried thousands of chatrooms.

At first I didn’t appreciate the significance of it but eventually I realized that many people are actually living their lives in front of a computer screen, interacting with dozens of people in real time, making friendships, loving, hating and fighting, and experiencing all the same types of emotions experienced in real life but at a much faster pace than ever possible before… These were actually virtual towns with “regular” citizens! Each room has a different character, style and mood. Some rooms are very busy with dozens of “roomies” and random visitors constantly entering, and some are very quiet with a small “base” of regular users “regs”. The rooms also have a social order. The hosts/co-hosts, and different levels of administrators with some having more power than others, and of course the regs and visitors which have no control over the room. Control means the ability to “muzzle”, “kill” and “ban”. So usually there is no “free speech”. You are bound by the rules of the room which are usually posted when you enter, and the attitude/mood of the admins/hosts. Unless you are an admin or host you have to watch what you say. Room hosts/admins know each other so you can create a bad reputation for yourself in many rooms if a few people don’t like you. Some admins have that status in many rooms. Many have spent several years on ares, so they are highly dedicated to their “job.”